Moms, let’s be real—staying sober isn’t just about saying “no” to alcohol. It’s about showing up for yourself every day, which is no small task when life is full of demands, laundry piles, and tantrums (yours or the kids’—no judgment). Self-care is your secret weapon, not only to stay on track but to thrive in sobriety. So, let’s talk about how to actually take care of you.
1. Makes Friends with Routine
Having a daily rhythm can work wonders for your mental health. Whether it’s a morning coffee ritual, 20 minutes of yoga, or a nightly skincare routine (hello, sheet masks!), these small habits create a sense of calm and control. Bonus: routines make it easier to avoid those 5 p.m. wine o’clock vibes.
2. Move Your Body (In a Way That Feels Good)
Forget punishment workouts or chasing some fitness trend. Movement should feel good. Whether it’s dancing in your kitchen, walking around the block, or trying a YouTube yoga class, moving your body can help shake off stress and boost those feel-good endorphins. You deserve that little spark of joy.
3. Find Your People
Sobriety can feel lonely sometimes, especially when it seems like everyone else is sipping rosé at playdates. That’s why finding your sober crew is a game changer. The Sober Mom Life Café offers a space for women to openly discuss their relationships with alcohol without judgment.
4. Learn to Say No
We moms are the queens of overcommitting, aren’t we? But part of self-care is learning that “no” is a complete sentence. If a party, event, or even a coffee date feels like it could mess with your peace, skip it. Protecting your sobriety is the ultimate act of self-love.
5. Embrace Quiet Moments
In the chaos of motherhood, it can feel impossible to sit still—but those quiet moments are gold. Try five minutes of deep breathing, journaling, or just sitting on your porch with a cup of tea. Little pauses can help you reset and stay grounded.
6. Celebrate the Wins
You made it through another day sober? Heck yes! That’s a big deal. Treat yourself—bubble baths, a new book, or a fancy coffee are all fair game. Recognizing your progress (big and small) helps keep you motivated and proud of how far you’ve come.
7. Find Joy in New Hobbies
Remember those things you loved before life got so hectic? Or maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to try? Painting, baking, gardening—whatever lights you up, go for it. Hobbies aren’t just a distraction; they’re a reminder that life is full of beauty and possibility.
Self-Care is Non-Negotiable
Let’s be honest: sober or not, moms tend to put themselves last. But here’s the thing—you can’t pour from an empty cup (not even a metaphorical one). Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. You deserve it. And remember, you’re not alone in this journey. We’re all figuring it out together, one day at a time.
You’ve got this, mama.
I created The Sober Mom Life Café so women could have a safe space to explore their relationship with alcohol and find freedom in sobriety. We have Zoom Peer Support meetings every single day, sometimes multiple meetings a day. You felt alone in your drinking. You don’t have to feel alone in sobriety.
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